Readers Comment on Leaving 1203

HighLIGHTS

“Marietta graciously offered readings, explanations and perspectives of her recent publication of “Leaving 1203: Emptying a Home - Filling the Heart.” We left the event with a full belly, warm heart, new friends and a great understanding of life at 1203.”
— Daryl Hastings
South Acworth, New Hampshire

“I have to tell you - your “little'“ book belies its power. What a wonderful ride. You have a lovely talent with language. I’ve recently had the experience of holding a few objects and feeling them spark memories, and also had the realization that these objects are not the memories themselves, and it’s ok to let them go. But your story was so compelling that I really didn’t think of that so much. I was caught up in your reflections - particularly of the tennis match. And the importance of a day without an agenda, I need that more than ever.”
— Michael Davies
Charlottesville, Virginia

“I thoroughly loved, loved, loved reading LEAVING 1203. As I sat reading, I could feel the parallels in myriad ways between both our losses. But I was so enthralled with your ability to tell the story of your mom’s passing and the way you invited us all in to see and share how you and your family coped and grieved. Glued to the pages and their words I found myself weeping and chuckling and sometimes sobbing almost uncontrollably. LEAVING 1203 felt like a book I could have written, nearly synonymous with my own story. By the end of the book, I felt comforted with a sense of calm, it was that palpable. My tears were softened with smiles and I felt like we were going to be ok. Warmest regards,”
—Penny Ploof
Middlebury, Vermont

“I finished reading LEAVING 1203 this morning and, as a cancer patient for five long years, I found the whole experience refreshing and calming in my chaotic world. As I'm sure many of your readers will find, it brought back so many memories of my family, long gone now, but who are still so present in my life. I could taste the food, and smell the flowers, and I felt like I was party to a special family dynamic. What a gift.”
— Jason Green
San Diego, California

“LEAVING 1203 is a precious treasure.  I read it in two sittings and highly recommend it to reluctant house emptiers far and wide.  While I cannot speak from experience, I can  only imagine that the loss of parents is nothing less than devastating. Marietta McCarty had taken that painful life event and softened it, while relating her experiences emptying out her childhood home. This book is a joy to read as well as  a tool of healing.  Thank you Marietta for sharing this gift with us so selflessly.”
—- Joan Hartigan
Thousand Oaks, California

“There are so many epiphanies in this small but mighty book, all of them reminding me that we humans are connected in the business of filling and emptying, arriving and leaving, forgetting and remembering.  It’s a profound comfort to feel this deep fellowship. An especially memorable moment for me was your rediscovery of your mother’s talent for songwriting. It painted such a clear picture of a forever young, spirited and adventurous woman.  The music she (and young you) listened to — Ella Fitzgerald! Billie Holiday!  Nat King Cole! — immediately connected me to my father, who was a civil servant by day and a saxophonist playing occasional gigs by night.  What a pleasure to know that you and I both listened to this music when we were kids!  I never would have guessed it, what with your Southern mother and my New York-born father, but there’s that universal connection theme again.  We may be among the few who know lyrics like ‘Just when I try to straighten my tie, she wants to borrow my comb.’”
—-Janice Toran
Lenox, Massachusetts

“Hi Marietta, 
Congrats!  Question: What is better than publishing one book? 
Answer: Publishing 4 books and creating thousands of life rafts for others! You're doing it! Peace.”
—- Carl Stacy
Charlottesville, Virginia

“Hi, Marietta! I enjoyed your talk at the Jack Byrne Center, where I volunteer as a family care navigator, and just finished LEAVING 1203. Your voice is lyrical and your book poetic! Great job finding the stories and pieces of a home that added up to a bestseller. Thank you for the storytelling and the inspiration!”
—-Jill Trudeau Marquard
Lebanon, New Hampshire

"Oh good heavens! I followed you around 1203 for three days while reading the book for my first but not last time. Each day I wondered which room we'd be in, who I'd meet, what new surprises were waiting. I loved it all, every detail, and being a part of it all. Are you thinking about writing another book? Well, I wouldn't, you'll never top this one!”
—- Betsy Respess
Athens, Georgia

“You’re now in the club of writers that force me to put down their books because I know it’s going to go too fast. I'm savoring each chapter, thinking about it, sometimes laughing, sometimes choked up.”
—- Matthew Mudd
McLean, Virginia

READ ON!

“Leaving 1203 is filled with humor and wisdom. As Marietta goes through her childhood home, memories of her childhood are recounted with deep, personal vividness. I wish I had underlined poignant phrases from the first page, such as ‘family and friends walked with me in spirit.’ This must be a common human experience when going through the belongings of loved ones. Among the many lessons in this book: ‘the fires of courage and resilience,’ ‘say yes to adventure,’ ‘let kindness and generosity win each day.’ I recommend Leaving 1203 to anyone.”
—-Rabbi Rain Zohav
Rockville, Maryland

“Dear Marietta, you have given us a timeless gift by writing and sharing LEAVING 1203 with us. Even though it was in 2006 that we emptied my parents’ home - of 60 years - I remember it well; and I remember many of the same experiences that you wrote about. I remember the first day just walking around in a trance as I realized the task before us. And I love the picture of Billy! Thanks so much.”
—-Charlene Diggs (and Jimmy)
Gloucester, VA

“The gift of the book LEAVING 1203 has left a mark on my heart. Weeks after reading it and actually sharing it with mom, she fell and had to leave ‘2409.’ I'm purchasing books for my siblings. By the way, you had me at ‘gravy bread.’” 
—-Lea Baranik
Altoona, Pennsylvania

“It's a great book, Marietta! I LOVE it! Whew, it not only took me on your journey, but conjured up parts of mine and, sometimes, simultaneously. It was terrific! Thanks, Marietta. Your stories really moved and inspired me. You are truly a very gifted writer, and individual.”
—-Susan Santiago
Point Reyes, California

“Marietta, the book is a lovely ode to family and friends, to the best in us all. I so enjoyed your clear and loving word pictures. The army of people you harnessed to help with the emptying is remarkable, and how wonderful that you gave them all a chance to take the things they wanted. As for Billy, what can I say?”
—-Barbara Shelton
Asheville, North Carolina

“I just finished your book, LEAVING 1203. I laughed, I cried, I loved it. My father died in 2016, my mother in 2012. So, my brothers and I cleaned out their home (they built it new in 1964), without any of the dignity and humor you managed.  We managed not to fight, and we did give away a lot of stuff, but you managed it so much better than we did.... Thanks for a great book.”
—-Barbara Heyl
Faber, Virginia

"I have finally finished LEAVING 1203. I only read a couple of chapters at a time, for a couple of reasons. A part of me resonated so strongly with your story that I needed time to process my reactions - and, I wanted this experience to last as long as possible. In reading your book, I found what environmentalist John Muir says about a walk in nature: 'I received more than I sought.' Thank you for writing this family story. Our families and our experiences were different - and yet the same."
—-Diane Valade
Ruckersville, Virginia

“What a pleasure it was having you at the Jack Byrne Center last Friday, July 26th. I found the experience valuable on both a personal and professional level. They have a saying here on the Dartmouth-Hitchcock Palliative Care team that we have the skills necessary to ‘hold space’ for patient and families in a way that supports healing, validation and connection. You have that same gift. I learned a lot about gratitude and the power that all of us have to change our perspective on life’s circumstances (from responsibility to opportunity). You spoke about the power of memories, their ability to take us back in time (escape) and the importance of ‘locking them down’ and cherishing them. Thank you for your visit, your thoughtfulness in putting the program together and for sharing your gift.”
—-Beth O’Donnell, Program Manager for Palliative Care at Dartmouth-Hitchcock
Lebanon, New Hampshire

“Marietta McCarty has written a book that warms the heart. Each page allows the reader into her world as she ventured into the challenging task of emptying her childhood home. Yet, the reader is quickly transformed into his or her own memories. LEAVING 1203 encourages one to think, laugh, cry, and ponder. Read each page slowly, as there is much wisdom to be found with each specific word. Marietta has a beautiful grasp of the English language and each word just sings. I loved this book. It is filled with simple pleasures. Drink them up!”
—-John Case
Charlottesville, Virginia

“Dear Marietta, Thought you’d like to know that my oldest sister Sandy is going to read from 1203 in her Mothers Day sermon this Sunday! I told her to take up a collection to pay to fly you to Iowa.”
—-Gail Robinson
Takoma Park, Maryland

"You won my heart!”
—-John Marriot
Pine Knoll Shores, North Carolina

“You are really having a great time, aren’t you?!  So proud of you and all you have done. Waiting for you to have time for my porch and a beer so I can tell you how much and how deeply your Leaving 1203 affected me.”
—-Jeanne Norton
Gordonsville, Virginia

“I dawdled with your book, LEAVING 1203. Reading chapter after chapter was gentle coaxing . . . remembering my childhood, “letting go, and holding on to what matters most.” Reading your book brought back memories of my mother and father and their old house in Virginia. Their golden years were shared with gobs of generosity, love and laughter. An unusual feature was a heavy cast iron swing in their backyard, so heavy and big it couldn’t go in the moving van. We had to let it go when Dad sold the house. The new owners love it just as much as we did, sure. They have two young children. By this time, they can say that their children grew up with the special swing in their backyard. Though it isn’t a part of our family any more, it is right where it belongs. I vow to plunk a swing in my backyard this summer with the hope it remains there for the next family, and the one after – meanwhile, hold onto the love and laughter, my memories, and what matters most. Marietta, thank you for your invitation to enter 1203 and stay awhile. It is this kind of friendship that helps us all to know, too, the best is yet to come.”
—-Janine Sellers
New Bern, North Carolina

“Please, will you give me the recipe for that potato salad? Please!”
—-Alison McCallum
Ponte Vedra, Florida

“I'm beginning a second reading.... It is a precious read and full of wisdom and life. Such a terrific memoir of a loving family in a home which sheltered and deepened love, and which 'opened its arms' to embrace so many. So glad I can share it with friends and family. Thank you.”
—- Jeanne Reilly
Sag Harbor, New York

“While LEAVING 1203 is a small volume, it is filled with beauty, wisdom, and love. The words glide over the page and each word is a gem. I’m sure every reader will find something especially meaningful to them personally. Reading it has given me some great ideas about how to accomplish this separation with minimal pain and maximum gratitude as I empty my home of forty-seven years.”
—- Cathy S. Plotkin
Richmond, Virginia

“I took a break from MANSFIELD PARK to read LEAVING 1203 which I have now finished. I enjoyed it immensely. Use of items lacking monetary value to stimulate priceless memories provoked me, as I suspect it will other readers, to consider some of our own objects and the memories they represent—such as the hideous brass parrot, now hanging in our guest bathroom, which my mother had had suspended over her dining room table for years and which has been acknowledged positively by only one of our guests. She will get it someday. Upon returning to MANSFIELD PARK, I proceeded a few pages and read: ‘If any one faculty of our nature may be called more wonderful than the rest, I do think it is memory.’“
― Robert Macdonald
Kodiak Island, Alaska

“Raised, loved, charmed, cherished, nourished, humored, guided, filled, refilled, feted, dined, celebrated, wined, fused, released in lovely 1203.”
—- M.M. Ruth
Olympia, Washington

“Woohoo! LEAVING 1203 is fabulous! Taking it slow… about a chapter a night… for complete immersion in this beautiful world and its wisdom.”
—- Julie Gronlund
Afton, Virginia

“I LOVED your book.  It made me feel so good. There are so many ways to leave a home.  Making that departure from a home where the structure itself often supported and framed so many family memories can sometimes evoke both physical and emotional crises.  Your book tells me how to say “goodbye” to stuff and “hello” to loving reminiscences that I want to cherish always.  After reading LEAVING 1203 I have both courage and anticipated comfort as my husband and I start to downsize.  Pulling out boxes from the attic or the top shelf of a closet just might bring a smile along with a long forgotten happy family memory.  It’s the memory that lasts, not the stuff.”
—- Letty Ann Macdonald
Barboursville, Virginia

“Thanks for your heart-warming book. Dave and I are reading LEAVING 1203 aloud - it’s perfect for a burst of thoughtful, reflection-producing reading over the breakfast table before we go on to our homework during the weekends. As I’m reading I can hear your voice saying each sentence - it sounds so much like you.”
—- Erin Hughey-Commers
Charlottesville, Virginia